The "Other Women"

"We're talking to other couples."

When K told me that she and T were talking to other couples, Matt and I freaked out for a moment.  We'd been down this road several times when we were trying to adopt traditionally, and were so worried for what it meant.  Everything had felt so right about this process with us and K & T, and I didn't want to think about another couple being a better fit with them.  But then she clarified the situation, and things got even better than before.

K & T had more embryos than one couple would need.  In fact, they were trying to decide if they should donate to 2 couples, or even 3!  She had actually been talking to one of the couples since before we 'met' and had just started talking with a third couple.  She felt like these matches were meant to be because it was all falling in place.  And she wanted us to chat with the other couples too!

K was right.  S&A (one of the potential recipient couples) and L&P (the other recipient couple) have been amazing to get to know.  Once again, I felt like chatting with S and L was like chatting with girlfriends I'd known forever.  Matt and I have had 100% support throughout our entire pregnancy journey from family and friends, but no one else really "got" EA/ED at this level.  S and L were going through the exact same things at the same time.  We have a great friendship building from this process, and also hope to someday (when the time is right) maybe even be able to have the families meet.  In the short-term though, having S and L to navigate these legal and medical processes with has been a big blessing!  I'll get into that in the next post in case it helps someone looking into EA/ED.